The Cue for a Good Relationship Communication
All relationship beginnings start with communication. Even a negative response to an invitation is made known through relationship communication. Notably, the end of an affair also relies on relationship communication.
But first is the wrong impression when we hear the expression “no communication”. Most people think that having “no communication” with your partner is the end of a relationship. Yet to some, it could even mean as a way of communicating something good for the relationship (although at least for a while). The thing is, relationship communication could only either be good or bad. “No communication” could mean good, though most of the time bad.
In relationship communication, silence could mean a great deal for the couple (or team or family member). So, a verbal “no communication” should not be the only point of concern. When somebody takes our body language together with our words (or lack of words), then he/she can probably find out what we really want to communicate. Consider a woman who suddenly turns quiet while in a conversation with her lover, she keeps still yet gazes adoringly across the table. It doesn’t mean she’s offended by what the other said – in fact it’s a good thing.
The problem only comes when the other person fails to get the message – the problem of “miscommunication”. A much greater concern than having either a good or a bad message is the other person to understand what you are trying to get at rather than ending up with the other’s careless shrug of “whatever” – the worst form of bad relationship communication. Miscommunication is best resolved by asking. Do not make assumptions or jump to conclusions (that are most probably wrong).
Another obstacle to having a great relationship communication is communicating the truth. It already is a problem when a couple goes through with miscommunication, so what more if the sender expresses an erroneous message. Lying (or hiding the truth) always only makes things worse.
Finally, the last thing to keep in mind when it comes to relationship communication is how we communicate. If you’re not sure of what the other is trying to communicate, then without hesitation, ask for an explanation, although you may get the frequent response of “don’t you get it?!” Sincerely say, “I’m sorry, but I don’t get what you’re saying.” And for the other, appreciate the gap-bridging; you would rather hear a question than a ‘whatever’.
It’s a fact that a person gets irritated when somebody doesn’t understand him, yet despite the miscommunication is his desire to be understood. People always feel good if somebody understands them. So don’t miss this chance. Revive the good relationship communication. Start talking again. And this time, communicate with care.